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Their is a certain blogger out there who would lead a person to believe that they are busy, busy, busy. This person seems to have her life all nice, neat and orderly. Her kids are happy and well behaved, her hubby is happy, and she lives a godly existence toiling away day after long day cooking from scratch, homeschooling, cleaning, and blogging away about her Home Management Binder and Schedules. Interesting!!
Now, let me tell you what life is really about!! It's about getting up with PMS. Your husband wants a full breakfast and your baby has been up all night!! You are working away at housecleaning and your kids are tearing up your hard work just as fast as you can get it done! You are trying to get them under control and your phone rings. It's your adorable husband wondering if you can run some errands. Your laundry is piling up. Your kitchen needs cleaned. You're tired. Your baby is still crying. And your kids aren't cooperating. Your toilet just sprung a leak. Everything that could possibly go wrong is going wrong and it's only 10:00 am!!
Now our favorite HMB queen would have you believe that while these things do happen, you can still go through your day with a smile and happy heart!! After all, you are being selfish if you allow yourself to have a bad day.
Well, you do need to do something to get your day back in order. But it's not by telling yourself that you are selfish. It's not by smiling. It's by calming yourself down!!
In just a few steps, you can get things back in order and while you may not be smiling, you will feel like you have accomplished something.
1. Tell your husband no. The errand will have to wait. Period. End of story.
2. Close your eyes while you take a deep breath. Go to your happy place just long enough to get your blood pressure down.
3. Turn off the water to the toilet and call a plumber, but only call a plumber if this is your only bathroom and it's in your budget. If you can't afford a plumber, don't let the kids drink anything until you can fix it.
3. Stick your oldest kids in front of the TV. I know, I know, TVs shouldn't be baby sitters. But, this is an emergency. The rule of thumb is this...during an emergency, anything goes!! Even the dreaded TV.
4. Pick up your fussy baby, sit in a comfy chair, hold your baby as long as she needs it and while you're at it, take a nap. The kids are watching Hannah Montana (they are not going anywhere). Just make sure that you lock your door and if you are like most moms, the minute your older kids move...your eyes will pop right open. I think God give this little gift just to mothers.
Everything else can wait!! Tackle the other things as soon as you feel mentally and physically able to. Don't worry about the kitchen. Don't worry about the laundry. It's not going anywhere
either!!
But please, do remember to fix the toilet first. There's nothing as worse as hearing kids whine about having to go to the bathroom.
Alot of the post was written with tongue in cheek. However, the steps are basically real. Calm down and just go with the flow. Remember your priorities and you will do just fine. And if your husband comes home and says something about the dirty house. Oh well!! I promise you, it won't be the last time that happens!!
That's life and that's real!!!
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9 comments:
There's nothing as worse as hearing kids whine about having to go to the bathroom.
Yes, there is. Having them *not whine* cuz they found the bushes outside.
When I was preggers, sometimes I would lay on the couch and sit the toddlers on my legs to watch tv while I rested. That way I would know if they moved!
Finally, a voice of reason! I'm feeling better already. Thank you!
MarineMom in TN
Yea! A place where you don't haft to be a perfect mother. Whew! And I thought I was the only one who had days like that. Can't wait to see more of your post.
They should make this into a pamphlet that they hand out to new mothers on the way out of the hospital. Sort of an in case of emergency read this. You can't forget the plan to drive baby around and then sleep in the van so you won't wake him/her back up in the middles of the night.
This is great and it does sound much more like a typical day, especially like mine when my kids were younger.
I made a blog post similar to this in response to that certain blogger's insistence that she is perpetually happy. She alluded to the fact that she was a true Christian and therefore imbued with the holy spirit and physically incapable of being unhappy.
My post was, essentially, what I believed some of her readers wanted to hear- that normal moms get stressed out and have bad days, and even if you choose to be happy, you have to work at turning that bad day around!!!
Hey, why don't you ask your readers for their real homemaking experiences and suggestions? A collective, all inclusive list, as opposed to the opinions of one misguided individual (not you...). Everyone could share their bad days, experiences, etc. and how they deal with them and offer advice based on EXPERIENCE rather than, um, judgment.
Wow! You mean I'm not the ONLY one who has these type of days??? Glad to hear it. Now I don;t feel so stressed!
Thank you, thank you, thank you!!! I'm looking forward to your posts. This crazy perfectionism that I've seen on many (mostly one) blogs has me so discouraged. Oh, I need help with homemaking, no doubt and I do care about doing a good job. I just don't want to turn into a Stepford wife!
Debbie
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